Ebanks was engaged to rapper, actor, and comedian Nick Cannon. On October 4, 2007, People magazine announced that the couple has ended their engagement. Selita likes to date athletes and has been very successful running into them at events. Although she has been linked to Tennis player James Blake , star Quarterback for the New England Patriots, Tom Brady , the star Quarterback for Dallas Cowboys, Tony Romo and Saskatchewan Roughriders football player Tad Kornegay, she is currently dating star defensive lineman for the New York Giants, Osi Umenyiora and rapper Kanye West Selita also dated her ex-manager Marc Chamberlin and allegedly moved on quickly to a more strategic relationship to her career with Nick Cannon.